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Soft UX: Designing for Presence

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About this essay

A field note on intimacy, emotional design, and the small choices that shape how we feel online.

Presence is not a metric—it's a sensation. You feel it when an interface waits half a second longer than expected. When a system asks before it acts. When friction doesn’t punish, but protects.

Modern UX has been trained to remove all resistance. Every pause is treated as a leak. Every hesitation, a failure. But in human systems, friction is not the enemy—violence is.

Soft UX begins with consent. Not as a checkbox, but as a rhythm. A pattern where the interface signals intent, and the user responds—instead of being dragged forward by defaults.

Micro-rituals matter more than flows. The way a confirmation sounds. The silence after an action completes. The moment where nothing happens—and that’s the point.

Presence emerges when systems stop demanding attention and start earning it.

Designing for presence means accepting a quieter success: fewer clicks, deeper trust. slower movement, longer memory.

Soft UX doesn’t scale fast. But it lasts.

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